Parenting Cafe – Conversations and Connections

As the first half of the school term wraps up, it’s a great time to check in with your child and see how they’re feeling about school so far. Not with pressure and definitely not with a performance checklist but through warm open conversations that help them process their experiences and feel supported.

These questions aren’t meant to be asked all at once; they’re best sprinkled into everyday conversations. You might try one or two while you’re walking to the shops, playing a game, or cuddled up on the couch during the holidays. No pressure, just gentle chats.

Here are five simple, thoughtful questions to get you started plus a few helpful follow-ups for each one.

1. What’s something you’ve learned this term that you didn’t know before?

This helps your child recognise their own progress whether it’s a new maths skill, a cool fact, or just feeling more confident in class.

Follow-up:
“Was there something you found a bit tricky or confusing at first?”
Let them know it’s totally normal to find some things hard and that sticking with it is something to be proud of too.

2.  Who have you enjoyed spending time with lately?

Friendships are huge at this age. This question gives you insight into the people who are shaping your child’s school experience

Follow-up:
“Was there anyone you didn’t enjoy being around as much? Do you know why?”
Friendships change and that’s okay. Maybe your child started noticing when someone was being unfair or unkind. This is a chance to gently talk about values, boundaries, and what makes a good friend.

3. What’s one thing that made you feel proud at school recently?

Kids often feel proud of things that go beyond marks or gold stars  like helping a friend, finishing a book or  trying something new

Follow-up:
“Was there anything you did that you wish you could have done differently?”
This isn’t about pointing out mistakes. It’s about helping your child reflect and grow — without pressure.

4. What’s something you’d like to get better at next term?

This opens the door for goal-setting without it feeling heavy or formal.

Alternative:
“If you had a magic wand, what’s one thing you’d change about this term?”
It keeps things light and creative, while still encouraging your child to think about what they want to improve or try next.

5. Is there anything you wish we could do to help with school stuff?

Support doesn’t always mean more help with homework. It might be listening more, giving space, or changing a routine.

Follow-up ideas:

• “Would it help if we practised reading or spelling together sometimes?”
• “Do you want me to help with homework, or would you rather give it a go first and ask if you need me?”
• “Is there anything about mornings or evenings that feels rushed or tricky?”
• “Would it be fun to do something special to celebrate the end of term?”

It’s all about showing your child that you’re in their corner, not to take over, but to walk beside them.

These little chats can go a long way. They help your child feel seen, heard, supported and they remind you both that growth doesn’t have to be perfect. Just noticed, celebrated, and gently built on.

Give these questions a try this holiday and you will be amazed at the honest and meaningful conversation that comes up. We’d love to hear how it goes! Share your stories or any surprises in the comments to inspire other parents.